A Rose by Another Name
Posted By KFJ
Recently I have started to cringe at the thought of a new acquaintance addressing me by my first name. Yes, you read that correctly. I have this new found desire to be addressed by my last name. Here’s why:
99% of people mispronounce my first name. The mispronunciation of my first name has been a lifetime nuisance. I hate repeating my name only for people to continue to say it wrong. Sometimes the other party makes no effort to pronounce my name correctly. I have been called Cathy, Catara, Catria, Catya, Catera and other failed variations of CaTyra. Just correcting pronunciation is frustrating and draining. If you can relate, leave
a comment below!
2. Salutations are an indication of a professional and formal relationship. I believe first name reference is reserved for family, friends, and those who are closest to you. I recently began introducing myself to new clients and associates as Ms. Polland. However, I have noticed that most people still ask me my first name. I am quite puzzled by this revelation. Furthermore, many people ask if I have a nickname I prefer. Reluctantly, I tell people Tyra is fine although I am not a fine of the abbreviation. Another challenge of having a unique name is name bias. This is particularly prominent in the
recruitment stage. There are dozens of studies that prove candidates with more common, easily pronounced and Americanized names are more likely to receive a call back. Unfortunate ly, name bias is still prominent. As a result, I, along with others who have uncommon first names resort to
shortening, modifying or completely omitting our first names from resumes (using a middle name or nickname instead). This can be exhausting and dow n right embarassing, after all our first name says so much about who we are as an individual. By no means am I ashamed of my name, it is a combination of my parents first names. I like my name and appreciate its uniqueness. I frequently receive compliments on my name. I have no
plans to legally change my first name and encourage others to embrace their unique names. However, I do believe in name choice. We should all decide how we prefer to be addressed. After all a rose is still a rose even if it has a different name.
I would love to hear from others who struggle with the use or nonuse of your uncommon first name. Share your story and how you play the name game! Do you prefer a nickname? Did you change your name legally? Do you use an alias or your middle name?
Founder of Career Prep